Tragically, another black man's life was taken, cut short, viciously torn from his family and this earth. He was one of many, but on May 25th, 2020 my heart was finally fed up...sadly it took that long. That Black Man, a son, a father was George Floyd. His story was cut short and before his own family could speak for him his legacy was just another Blackman killed by the cops because he was trying to do something illegal or was strongly suspected of it. His legacy, before he was finally properly spoken for, was based in the stereotypical narrative that racists would have us all believe and use as justification for killing our Kings. This situation touched me so strongly and I asked God what can I do? His story and so many others are cut short and tarnished and it's happening too much. It's the only story we see, what is this teaching our sons? What is this teaching society? June 2020 the answer came to me, it was time to change the narrative it was time to share our Kings stories/experiences. I decided I would use my platform to share positive stories/experience, discussing topics around adversity, racism, mindset, resilience, solutions etc. and what our Kings do to impact our community in a positive way. I am the mom of an amazing African American youngman. His dad & I go out of our way to expose him to positive impactful men of all colors but especially of his own race. It's important that he sees people who look like him have success so that he knows what is possible for him. We have to find this information and share it with him because the positive aspects of our men are not highlighted in mainstream media. The opposite is. That opposite exposure creates stereotypes, paints pictures of our men as less intelligent, less educated, criminals, horrible fathers, angry and aggressive, people to be feared vs respected. This opposite is what our sons see in media more often than not. This creates a vicious cycle of hopelessness, anxiety, poor performance on testing, low self esteem and depression.
Statistics sadly show ...black males are aware of stereotypes that peg them as unintelligent or under-achieving, & they consistently suffer from the self-handicapping that results from stereotype threat in contexts such as testing or job interviewing. Interestingly, whites are also subject to a kind of stereotype threat. An experiment showed that when stereotypes about white racism were triggered, white males tended to place more physical & social distance between themselves and blacks, thereby acting in a manner that served to confirm the stereotype. (Goff et al., 2008)"🖤https://www.opportunityagenda.org/explore/resources-publications/media-representations-impact-black-men/media-portrayals 🖤Not a way our sons should have to live. We may not be able to end racism but we can build our sons mindset, support their emotional needs&teach them to guard themselves by exposing them to what is possible for them& guiding them on how to accomplish their goals.
Kings, Share your story, invite a King that you know to share his story, Queen's invite Kings that you know AND join my panel.
I have some Kings already, and I am excited to pull these amazing gentlemans stories together to start sharing with our world, especially our youngmen.
Thank you for those who helped me gather them and to those who volunteered.
We are headed in the right direction.
In addition to sharing their stories, it is important that we discuss issues that impact our community specifically and share root causes and possible solutions.
My idea is to do a few live round table discussions. The roundtable will have women and men because I want to expose others to how these issues affect men and women of color and their families. I also want us to understand each other more.
But again, the interviews will be for men only.
Let me know if you know anyone else that may want to participate.
I am seeking Women for the Roundtables of course Men for the ongoing list for interviews.
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